I need help getting reminders to work in an instant messenger program. I have had no problem sending reminders to email. But no success sending reminders to instant messenger accounts. As far as I understand, Windows Messenger which came with my Windows XP computer accesses the same .NET Messaging Service contacts as MSN Messenger. Does that mean I should be able to use Windows Messenger to receive reminders from remind@rememberthemilk.com that are sent to MSN Messenger? I've added remind@rememberthemilk.com to my Windows Messenger contacts and so far it's not working. I deleted and re-added remind@rememberthemilk.com to my contacts and it still does not work. If I need to download MSN Messenger to make it work, can you recommend a safe location from which to download the latest MSN messenger. I haven't found a reliable link for doing so.

I also set up a yahoo messenger account. When I try to add the contact remind@rememberthemilk.com or rtmremind it requires me to send a message to that contact to ask for approval. I haven't received approval, and haven't received reminders.

I tried several times, with a few different tasks. As an example the task "Review Aaron's music" due: "13 Feb 10 at 2:51PM" did not send a reminder.